The gap between letting go and stepping up.
How do you know when you’ve outgrown something?
This happens when the old no longer feels resonant. Whether it’s habits, beliefs, a job, a hobby, or a friendship. No matter what aspect of life, you’ll know, because while it may not necessarily feel bad, instead it will no longer feel right.
But this is where our logical mind starts to play tricks on us. It reasons. It justifies. It makes excuses for why it’s okay to hold onto our old habits, patterns, or environment. But somewhere deep inside, we know.
There’s a gut feeling. An inner knowing. A whisper or an invitation; It’s time to move forward.
But still, our rational mind resists. Our ego doesn’t want the change. We get scared. We want to remain in control. We believe things should unfold the way we imagined.
This is resistance.
And often, the bigger the resistance, the stronger the sign that it’s time to let go.
The more we go through this process, the more aware we become of where change is calling us.
But while the steps may sound simple, they’re not always easy. Because what we’re letting go of is part of us. Part of our journey. Part of our identity. Part of what made us the people we are today.
Letting go often brings a mix of emotions: fear, nerves, excitement, but most of all, grief. We are grieving what was, and learning to accept what is.
But here’s how we reframe this: Grief comes from love. And isn’t it better to have shared a deep bond, connection, or chapter, than to have never experienced it at all?
Grief isn’t just reserved for people who are no longer here. We grieve old jobs, old habits, beliefs, and environments. There’s a sadness in letting go, because in some way, we’re releasing a part of ourselves.
And this is when we enter the gap. The void. The space. The in-between.
The part after we get rid of our old shoes, and before our new ones feel comfortable.
This space takes deep trust. Commitment. Resilience. Grit. Self-belief. And while it can feel disorienting, uncertain, and emotional, somehow it’s necessary.
It’s in this space that something shifts.
Over time, we become more aware of what’s on the other side. We expand into our next level of growth. Our new shoes feel good. We feel the excitement of wearing something new, and we enjoy the space that we now have to expand into. And slowly but surely, it helps to settle our grief.
Because the truth is, time will pass anyway. Nothing stays the same forever.
So the real question becomes: Would I rather ride the wave, or stay out of the water altogether? Because all those ups and downs, that full range of emotions, that’s how we know we are truly alive.
Step forward, fearlessly. Your next pair of shoes are waiting.
And if you, your team, or your organisation are in a moment of growth, change, or transition, we’re here to help you move through it with clarity and confidence.
At TTM, we believe that personal growth is business growth. And when people grow, organisations transform